*Requested By @Luke J.R* (THANKS LUKE FOR DOING THAT TO ME)
Sadness, I've honestly felt this and seen it so many times and this will be the longest topic. A lot of people let their sadness build up until they finally break. Some might hurt themselves or others due to sadness, which is unhealthy, so I'd recommend you go to a psychiatrist, or counseling at the least. Sadness can become depression and that can lead to many unhealthy habits and traits that you don't want, trust me.
People can get upset when; someone makes fun of them, someone excludes them, or they can have a rough day, etc. I'm not going into all of that so you should know what makes people sad, it's quite easy to do. My sadness comes from disappointment. I decided I'd give you the internet's definition of sad, so here; Feeling of showing sorrow; unhappy.
Here's how to tell when someone is sad:
Notice the behavior of the person while talking to him. If he appears to be lost in his own world and hardly seems to be listening to you, chances are that he is sad and something is bothering him. People who are gravely sad find it difficult to relate to their environment. They feel a kind of solace in solitude; therefore, even if they are gathered around by people, they are mentally detached. People who are sad because of some reason tend to avoid social gatherings, giving one excuse or the other. So, if you see that a particular person is turning down all the invitations for quite some time, chances are that he is depressed. This is because sad people do not want to be encircled by people all the time. They need their space and solitude to be morbid. They feel disassociated with the world since a lot is going on with them internally. On the other side there is another theory that says that depressed or sad people also tend to over socialize. Sad people have a propensity to ignore their thoughts and feelings as that makes them staying with their own self unbearable. Therefore, they try to find their escape in attending parties and meeting new people. Lack of energy is also one of the traits of sadness. Since a person is feeling miserable all the time, he finds it better to sit at one place for long, often thinking about the reason that has made him sad. More often than not, this person is distressing himself with going round and round about his past, the mistakes, the losses, the regret, the pain, etc. in his head. Such incessant thinking can make one feel drained out and leaves him with no will or energy to do anything. Monitor the diet of the person. If he is sad, there will be two notable behaviors, either the appetite will drop altogether and he will hardly be interested in food or he will start having sudden and unusual cravings for starchy or sweet foods. This is called emotional eating and it is the one of the primary reasons for increasing obesity amongst people. Emotional eating is a disorder caused by increased stress or sadness. When our body is in emotional distress then it produces a hormone called cortisol. Cortisol triggers the urge in a person to eat the kind of fatty food that provides an instant pleasure and gives you a burst of energy, making you temporarily happy. There will be changes in his usual behavior. Either he might be getting irritated at the slightest of provocation or he might not react to even the most annoying actions. This is because the mind is preoccupied and does not have the emotional capacity to deal with the ongoing situations. If a person is sad, he often suffers from insomnia. Most probably, he will pass the night tossing and turning in bed, with his mind thinking about something or the other. This is the major reason why unhappy people find it very difficult to concentrate on anything properly. The lack of sleep leads to the lack of concentration, which can severely affect someone’s personal and professional life. Sad people often take to addiction. They get hooked to alcohol or smoking or they go on drug binges. This is because all of these addictive substances give a person a false sense of happiness and hope. If you see someone who is drinking more than his usual capacity or smoking a lot of cigarettes then it is a cue for you to understand that his is troubled with some tough feelings. It is said that eyes are the mirror to the heart of a person. If a person is sad, you will notice a withdrawn look in his eyes, signifying that there is something that is bothering him. You will see resignation in his smile and a defeatist withdrawal in his general disposition. But you will only be able to notice this if you look closely.
How to stop being sad
1. Get enough sleep
We all need between 6-8 hours of sleep. The personal difference lies in the number of hours each of us require – but this is pretty much the range. Being tired all week adds up and is not really fixable by sleeping a lot during the weekend.
A shortage of even one hour per night will somewhat hurt your ability to function properly the next day. Long lack of sleep will cause bad mood and harm your imagination and thinking process.
2. Stop thinking about things that bother you
Repetitive thinking about such a subject might make your mind develop obsessive patterns while working the “automatic” mechanism that is in the brain – resulting in bad judgment and much frustration.
In order to stop the “loop” process of your brain – you must fill it with different thoughts that will forcibly “reject” the bad thinking pattern.That way you will have some relief from the problem and will let your mind relax and get proper proportions on the subject. A good movie can help with this – or even meeting and sitting with friends.
3. Before going to sleep, Read a happy book or watch a good movie
Bad dreams that come as continuation to the bad content you were watching will generally affect you even on the next day, even if you don’t really remember its content.
Experiencing bad dreams will leave a trail of neurotransmitters just like after a real bad experience that happened in real life and might affect us all day long.
4. Don’t start your morning with reading bad and bothersome news
Try and reading the light and easy news like sports or any other section that you find interesting. morning experiences might affect your whole day.
5. For people that are in relationships – Try to have sex daily
Even if you “don’t feel like it” or that you’re “really” bothered by other subjects, the endorphins that are secreted in the brain after having sexual intercourse will change the way we look at everything a bit, beside the pleasure thats involved.
6.Remind yourself that past bad experiences that looked life changing – now seem meaningless
For instance, parties you weren’t invited to when you were on the 6th grade or a test you failed in high school. This is probably how you’d look on present problems, in the future.
7. At the end of a work day – try doing some physical exercise
Take a walk with the dog around the neighborhood or even take a short walk in the park. This will change how you feel and will fade away your tiredness that comes with the end of a day – and will allow you to enjoy your free time even more.
8. Find love and groom it
Love between two people will release Oxytocin, hormone that only appears in an advance stage of a relationship and is responsible for self esteem and general inner peace that loved ones feel.
Notice that during the stage of falling in love, Dopamine is released in the brain, that may make you feel euphoric and excited but this is just a stage and intro to the love and oxytocin a bit later.
I hope this helps