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5. Stereotypes of Gay Men (and why they're a load of crap)

 

 

Gay men are all feminine!

Wait, so does this mean that ALL  straight girls are into fashion and make-up? Does this mean that ALL lesbians are really into sports and checky shirts? No person is exactly the same – and such a large community as the gay community is INCREDIBLY diverse. Not all gay men are feminine. Some are, but not every gay man should be stereotyped as feminine.

 

Gay men are all really into fashion!

NAHHH BRAH. Straight men can be into fashion, and gay men can loathe the industry. Similarly, gay men can be into fashion, and straight men can loathe the industry. It all just depends on the individual person. Your sexuality (or gender) does not define you as a person.

 

Gay men are really neat and tidy!

Noooope. I mean, some are, but if five out of ten gay men are all neat and tidy, that doesn't mean the other five are also neat and tidy.

 

Gay men love listening to Madonna, Lady Gaga, Britney, and Beyoncé!

Some do, but, come on – your sexuality is in no way related to your music choice.

 

Homosexuality is caused by boys playing with dolls as children!

Homosexuality is generally believed to be something you are born with. (Though it is scientifically proven not to be hereditary.) It’s not going to be ‘caused’ by playing with dolls. Also, who says dolls are just for girls anyway? That's really sexist.

 

Gay men are all paedophiles!

No.

 

Gay men can't raise children with care and love, because there must be a woman to do this!

FEMINISM, PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!! A WOMAN’S ROLE IN LIFE IS NOT JUST TO LOOK AFTER CHILDREN. MEN ARE NOT ALL COLD HEARTED BRUTES WHO THINK A CHILD IS SOME KIND OF FOREIGN ANIMAL. MEN CAN RAISE CHILDREN JUST THE SAME AS WOMEN CAN RAISE CHILDREN. SINGLE MOTHERS/FATHERS AREN’T COMPLAINED ABOUT, SO WHY SHOULD A GAY COUPLE BE?!

 

Gay men are trying to 'turn' all straight men gay!

Just like straight people aren’t attracted to everyone they see, gay people aren’t attracted to everyone they see. Plus, it would be impossible to 'turn' someone gay. People are either born gay, or they're not. They get no choice in the matter.

 

Gay men like to wear leather, rainbows, and guy-liner!

A lot of the LGBT* community do wear rainbows as a symbol of pride. But not every gay guy wants to wear rainbows (or guy liner, or leather) because everyone likes to wear different things, regardless of their sexuality.

 

Gay men aren't ever religious!

Dudeeeeeee, NAWT TRUE. Lots of gay men are religious, and similarly, lots of gay men are atheist. It doesn’t mean religious gays agree with everything in their Holy Book, but they do follow the religion as a whole.

 

Gay men all snap their fingers in a z formation to prove points!

 NO ONE DOES THAT ANYMORE.

 

Gay men all call everyone else "Girlfriend"!

NOT THE NINETIES.

 

Gay men will all burn in eternal hellfire!

I can’t say for sure, but I doubt it.

 

Gay men all love the theatre and musicals!

No. Some do, of course, but not all gays.

 

Gay men all have a lisp!

What the hell, your sexuality in no way affects the way you speak.

 

Every straight girl needs a gay guy BFF!

NO. JUST STOP.

You're objectifying gays if you're talking like this, for one thing. Talking about them as if they're some sort of novelty object, rather than an actual person with actual feelings. You are acting as if every single gay guy is just a slight variation on the same mould, and THIS QUITE FRANKLY IS NOT TRUE.

Just because a guy is gay doesn't mean they're naturally going to want to pander to your every need, comfort you every time your crush flirts with someone else, offer you style advice at any given point in time, allow you to bitch constantly about other girls to them, or trail along after you like your little pet puppy dog.

Come on, you can't actually believe every stereotypes the media shoves down your throat?

 

Gay men all hate sports!

NOPE. Some do hate sports, but equally, some love sports.

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