Things Just Happen

This is a rant book, where I can just put on issues that I come across day by day, which'll help me, but hopefully you too :) x
*Warning* will contain swearing.

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18. Love... please.

I don't believe in love. *gasp* *shout*

Yes, I know it's a big claim to make, and before you start saying about how love can mean different things, I'm talking about the soulmates kind of love. The boyfriend-girlfriend kind of love. The perfect romance everyone dreams of - the long kisses, the movie nights, the celebrity boyfriend/girlfriend - it's not real. One day, it'll all come to an end.

Soulmates could be your best friend, your sibling, or even a stranger. Soulmates don't have to be the "one and only" for you. My definition of soulmates is two people who have more similarities and differences with each other than anyone else they meet. They are intrigued by this person and have a feeling of curiosity, and they call that feeling love. It's not love. It's called finding out something about a person that you didn't already know. That thing they find out leads to trust, and trust leads to becoming closer. You could become close to anyone. Heck, your soulmate could be one of your parents. And if soulmates did exist, then think of all the people who die young - what happens to their second half who they haven't met yet? That second half will never have known their soulmate, and will have gone onto marry someone else, raise a family and love that person for the rest of their lives. And as for the dead person? They would end up alone. Does that mean that they have no soulmate? Well, it's the most likely explanation.

Think about all the people who live their whole lives single. They attend bachelor/bachelorette parties, never having that feeling of belonging everyone talks about. They may have dated people before, they may not have, but they wouldn't have felt that "missing piece" feeling that books talk about.

I'm not saying that your parents don't love each other, or that your fiance doesn't love you. But just think - is love what they describe in the books? If love is finding the person who you get along with best in life, then yes I believe in love. I have love for my family because I get along with them well, and we have ups and downs. I love them because we don't have a perfect relationship. I love them because even if I keep secrets from them, even though they don't get me completely, they know me more than anyone else around me. If that is love, if love means to find someone who could be anything in your life - whether it be brother, sister, mum dad - if love is finding someone who will just become another member of your family with the same importance as them, then yes, I do believe in that kind of love.

But I do not believe in the love that sells the crap that says "Oh, you are everything to me, you are all that I need". I do not believe in the love that says "My life can't go on without you". Because the reality is, if you truly love someone, then you will be happy, because if their happiness is your happiness, then you feeling low will make them sad. If you truly love someone, you will always keep them in your heart, but you will move on and rediscover the things that held the same importance as them.

If you believe in love, then I'm sorry if this offended you, I didn't mean to. These are just my views on the kind of perfect love that books seem to portray. Everyone expects that kind of love, even though it's unrealistic, and I just have to put it out here. Please don't feel bad about this - I'm not meaning to target anyone's beliefs, so I'm sorry if this hurt you!

 

Don't let anyone take control over what you do, it's your decision and yours alone.

Vach xx

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