Nobody has the perfect life all the time. I mean, you can be really happy, at your happiest, but you're still going to have a problem. Sometimes it's just something little like homework worries but sometimes it's something bigger. I'm not saying that any problem is small if it really worries you. I love 90210 (I know, I know, but it's actually really good when you watch it haha!) and this girl Annie was worried about everything in general and having a bad day but she felt like she shouldn't be feeling sad about it all because one of her friends was going through something 10X worse. This guy then told her that just because her problems aren't as big, that doesn't mean that they aren't valid and I agree 100%. If it worries you or hurts in any way, then it's valid, whether it's something really serious or whether you're just having a bad day.
No matter what it is, just tell somebody. If it's something like a bad day, talk to a parent if you're especially close to them! There's nothing better than having a crappy day and then going to talk to my mum about it and her making me feel better. If you don't want to talk to your parents, talk to your friends, whoever you like! If it's something like a break up or boy trouble or other friend trouble or anything like that, talk to your friends. If it's something that you don't feel like you can talk to anybody you know about it, then talk to an online thing like Childline or anything else like that. I'm not saying any of you trust me enough for this haha, but if you ever want to talk to me about something, you can! Those people I recommended there are just suggestions. If you feel better talking to your friends about a crappy day or your parents about a breakup, that's great. It's whatever fits you. Just as long as you tell somebody.
I mean, sometimes it's best not to tell somebody. Sometimes, if you've had a bad day, you just want to go sit in your room by yourself and that's fine too. Sometimes it's best just to be alone. But if it's something bigger and it's really worrying you, it feels better to speak to somebody.
In my chapter about positivity called 'Let it Go (positivity)' I talk about a bad friendship I just got out of. My other friends were friends with him too but he and I were good friends. When I call it a bad friendship, it's not like it was horrible while it was happening, I've just realised recently that it's not something I want to have in my life. While it was happening, it was something I really valued and now it's gone, it's something I really miss. I'm not going to lie. It's really been hard and heartbreaking and sad and all different kinds of frustrating to get away from that friendship and that person and it still is hard now. And the worst part of it all is that I went through it without really telling my friends about it.
That's not their fault, in no way am I blaming them, it's completely my fault. I should have told them and I tried but I just couldn't bring myself to say it. It's not like I was admitting to a crush or anything like that because it wasn't that. It's just, in our view as a whole group, he was just this weird kid we talked to. He was just him and it felt so pathetic to admit that he'd hurt me so I just didn't. I just sort of went through it alone. I sort of told them briefly that I was kinda sad that me and this person didn't talk anymore but I never told them how it really was. I guess I'm admitting it now to my best friend Ebony who reads this haha (hello Ebony!).
So before I turn this into a huge chapter where I cry about this whole friendship breakup thing, I'm going to remember why I wrote this in the first place. The reason that whole experience was so hard for me is because I didn't have the people I trust most in the world to help me. Those guys can help me with anything but because I couldn't swallow my pride and admit that that person had hurt me, the whole thing was 100X harder than it had to be. Guys, if there's something worrying you just talk to someone about it and save yourself the frustration and sadness. Whether you talk to me, or something like Childline or your friends or your parents, even a teacher, just tell someone if you have to. Telling someone about your worries is going to hurt less than going through it all by yourself!
Thank you guys for reading that, I told you some stuff that's pretty hard for me to admit (me and my stupid pride, hey?) so thank you :D