So, I recently recieved a mean comment on my movella 'I Refuse' which was:
In case you can't read that (I don't know how clear it'll be), the lovely reader asks me what she is reading and proceeds to tell me that it's boring and disturbing and asks me to "do something normal".
I'm not going to lie. It kind of bugged me. Not because the person didn't like my writing, that's fine, I'm not aiming to please everybody with my writing. It didn't even bother me that she commented. If she'd have commented something like "I didn't really like this" and explained why in a way that wasn't constructive criticism, I'd still be kind of annoyed but this person was plain rude! It was the fact that she was just mean and rude that annoyed me. How could a person just think "I'll say something that's going to hurt that person" and do it? I may be over exaggerating here, it's the one mean comment I've ever gotten on movellas, but hey, I work hard on writing and I do not take kindly to have it insulted in such a rude way!
Now, there are a lot of different ways you can respond to a mean comment like this. This isn't just for movellas, this is when someone says something to you in real life too. Whatever the situation, this is my advice.
You can do the whole mean comment like "Um excuse you, I'm more successful than you, you don't get this many views so you're wrong" sort of comment which I don't ever really agree with seeing as then you're just being as mean as them.
Or you can do the sarcastic comment which I was so so tempted to do. The sort of thing where you're like "It's a shame you didn't like it, but apparently over 200 other people do so it's all good :)". That one is good in certain situations. Especially online, that smiley face is really irritatingly sarcastic for the other person. I don't think it's bad to do the sarcastic comment at all if you're really annoyed by what's happened and if that person has really been mean but don't just turn to it all the time. You don't want your aim in life to be annoying people whenever they're mean to you.
You can also just ignore them. Just act like it didn't get to you at all, that'll throw them off.
I'm not being all holy when I say that the other thing you can do is the nice comment. Let's not sugar coat it, when somebody is mean to you, you either want to hurt them back (mean comment), annoy them (sarcastic comment) or just really throw them off (the nice comment). The nice comment is where you're just nice to them and they don't know what to do. They'll feel kind of ashamed of themselves because they've been mean and you've been nice to them.
I personally went for the nice comment:
I know, I know, there was a tiny trace of sarcasm in there. I'm only human. But it wasn't all sarcasm, I genuinely want to know what they found 'disturbing' about my work and what I can do to improve. But like I said before, this is for real life too. Being nice will throw them off more than anything. Nice people seem to be rare when conflict breaks out, so if you just respond nicely, they'll realise that they're in the wrong.
In one of my favourite songs 'Mean', one of the main lines is "All you are is mean" and also "All you're ever gonna be is mean!". I couldn't agree more! If you're a nice person, you're going to be nice and people are going to respect you and like you and you'll get ahead. You'll be known for the things that you do as well as being known for being a nice person. But mean people... sure, they'll get along, they may even do amazing things but at the end of the day, they'll be known for being mean and that's not a good thing to be known for.
So yes, the mean comment annoyed me a little but more good things have come from it than bad. Also, the annoyance didn't last for long when I looked at all the lovely things circled in yellow:
And also this! :
So one little comment from somebody who is just mean really doesn't matter at all!