10. What to talk to your boyfriend about and how to act around him?
Problem Definiton: I am going out with this boy that I really like, but we don't really talk much. I do want to talk to him I just don't know what to say. We have had a date but we didn't talk like at all. It was kind of awkward really. The only time I have talked to him lots was when my friends were around. Please can you tell me what to talk about because I don't know. Thank you xxx
Okay, so first I have to say that I had these problems too. I was extremely shy around my boyfriend, not that I'm a shy person but I was around him. I realized that perhaps I was just way too worried about what he thought about me and I realized it was silly of me. It'll take a while for you to change but you'll adjust eventually, so here are a few pointers:
Be yourself: You are who you are and there's not much you can change about that. You're unique and special in your own way. So don't pretend to be someone you are not for the guy. You want him to like you for you, right?
Be confident: Remember, you're awesome. You will make an awesome guy be proud he's got you. Never question things or little habits that you have, just do it and be proud. Guys love confident girls, look at Justin Bieber's song (Confident).
Don't act weird unless that is your personality. Laugh occasionally at what he says; he'll be happy to know that you find him funny.
Try to talk to him about things he likes to make small talk easier, and he'll catch on and will be more involved in the conversation. Bring up his hobbies or things he's strong in. Make the topic interesting and basic, it'll eventually take it's own path and you'll be shocked to see you both start flirting with each other.
Try asking him about his day, how's his family doing. Ask him about his sport or club or whatever he does for fun. Compliment him every now and then and try to make more skin contact. Try hugging him and teasing works. Tell him he smells nice and then flirt saying "It's either we've never been this close or you're using a new cologne." Teasing is very playful and it's healthy to have a playful relationship but too much teasing is a big no no.
He's your boyfriend so learn his interests and build a conversation around it.