Problem Definition: So, this girl used to have this crush on this guy ever since she met him, but he's 2 years older and never really paid attention to her. She was shy around him and got pretty anxious around him and would end up doing dumb things in front of him, so he has the impression she's a weirdo. Soon, word got out she liked the guy, and though she refused, he didn't even care. Now, he goes to a all-boys school while she is in 8th grade. She keeps on having dreams about him, and can't forget him. She then meets another guy who she thinks she likes more, but it turns out she still has dreams about the 1st guy and can't stop thinking about him. And though she knows their relationship isn't possible, and sh'e tried everything to forget about him, she can't. She wants to move on already, and has even tried, but it has never worked. She probably won't even see him again and nothing he does-like having a girlfriend-can make her dislike him. What can she do? Every time she stops thinking about him, somehow he appears back in her life, and she needs to move on.
Firstly, I want to apologize for taking so long to reply. I know I promised to respond to you soon and to be honest, I really forgot and I just came on and remembered, so I'm sorry.
Okay, so this one really puzzles me. I can't prevent her dreams obviously but I really think the only solution for her is to speak with this guy. It might be a bit embarrassing but she probably needs to clarify things between them and tell him that he confuses her. I think her problem is that she doesn't know. She doesn't know how he feels, she doesn't know what's the deal, she just doesn't. But in order for her to move on, she needs to know.
She needs him to tell her that he doesn't like her, if he doesn't. She needs him to tell her that there's nothing between them and that there will never be. It might sound a bit harsh and of course it's going to hurt her but she needs the push to move on and she'll never get it if she doesn't speak to him.
It's like being a fangirl. You dream about the person and you study their lives and they seem like they are the most amazing person in the world. There is nothing that you can say to a fangirl to make her believe that anything is wrong with the celebrity she's in love with. But if the person was to meet her and speak to her and she realizes that they're not all that they appear to be and that they are truly a bad person, then you'll never catch that fangirl talking or dreaming and doing anything that has to do with that celebrity. She'll automatically hate them and feel disgusted with herself that she liked them.
So to kill the fan girl, you introduce her to the celebrity. Hence, you have to get her to talk to him. If he's a bad person, I'm sure she'll move on but if he's not that bad then maybe they can talk things through and who knows what might come out of it. Her dreams might just come true. But when she speaks to him, she has to tell him that she likes him and she's confused, she can probably hold back on the dreams but she needs to come clean so that he can too.
I hope things work out for your friend and that she can move forward with her life.