So... The guys sat behind me in science today were comparing girls' bums. Girls in my year. Girls I know. Not girls I particularly like, but still... It made me feel kind of sick to hear them talked about like that. Please note: not one word was said about the personalities of these girls, except to call one unlucky girl a bitch. Luckily for her, their final judgement was positive; she was saved by her beautiful backside.
There have been other times when things like this have happened. I still vividly remember the time when, during our school's head boy/head girl elections, the boys behind me voted for the girl with the biggest tits. Seeing as my tits are quite small, I vowed never to run for head girl- I mean, what's the point? If people are deciding where to cast their vote like that then it's just going to be humiliating.
Do you see what things like this do to a girl's confidence? There have been times when people have openly laughed to my face about my lack of tits, or even just the messiness of my hair. And it hurts. You hold your head high and try not to let it get to you, but it does.
So what's my point? To be honest, even I'm not entirely sure. I think what I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't put so much pressure on young girls to look a certain way. Because it fucks with our heads. It can lead to problems like insecurity, anorexia, or just a general hatred of the way we look. I think every girl I've ever come into some form of contact with hates a certain aspect of their physical appearance; I don't believe that I've ever met someone who's perfectly happy with the way they look. Not even once. This worries me somewhat.
I think that the problem lies in the media's portrayal of women. You know the score: perfect hair, waist the size of a pencil, immaculate make-up... Models so photo-shopped that they cease to appear human, instead becoming almost robotic; they all look the same, smile the same, and even move the same. Has anyone else noticed this? Is anyone else scared by this?
I know it's been said before; the whole "media is misrepresenting women's bodies" crap is hardly a ground-breaking story. But I do also know that a lot of girls are painfully aware of this issue. More often that not, it's the guys who don't realise what's going on. Usually teenage ones.
Now, I don't mean to attack the whole male gender and I'm not trying to assert female dominance or anything. I know that boys experience discrimination for the way they look too, and that they have all this pressure put on them to be all muscle-bound and hard and all that shit - I've seen it with my own eyes and I know how fucked up it is. I'm not trying to say that all teenage boys are sexist pigs either - the majority aren't. The majority of teenage boys are upstanding young gentlemen, I'm sure. It's just...
There's always that one boy, isn't there? That one boy who watches too much pornography in his bedroom and thinks that all girls should be like that girl in the video. And he always seems to feel this insane need, this compulsive urge, to express his opinion to the rest of the world. Now, sometimes a girl will overhear him talking to his mates about the "perfect" tits, or the "perfect" legs or the "perfect" whatever. Maybe he'll cast a disdainful glance in her direction, and she'll know: whatever this "perfection" is, she's lacking it. She'll be self-conscious for the rest of the day if she's lucky, maybe the rest of the year if she's not.
I apologise if I sound bitter, but this has happened far too many times for me to just let it slide again. So I decided to do something about it. I'm not sure if this constitutes as "doing something" but I tried. I can only hope that, after reading this, you can see the situation a whole lot clearer. I don't pretend to have an instant solution, but I think I can provide some insight into the problem. Or at least try to, anyway.
My lack of logical conclusion may be disappointing to you, but we seem to be stuck in a rut and don't appear to be getting any closer to climbing out of it. One teenage girl on the internet can't do anything. A whole group of girls though, that's another thing entirely... It could make a difference. It could actually stop all this shit. It's just that, right now, I can't see that happening.
Maybe something needs to change.