24. 16 November 2013
I went on ForLove.com today. Apart from the usual badly written messages and notices from site’s administration, I got a message from a seemingly nice young man who coincidentally lives in Oxford. He goes by the username amant87, and according to his profile his real name is Alexander, hasn’t given a last name. He hasn’t given a last name. He’s originally from Romania. I hope he is what he says he is. His pictures look nice enough. He has short dark brown hair, blue eyes, thick eyebrows and an (what I would call) aristocratic nose set in an oval face with high cheekbones, strong jaw and pointed chin; and pale skin. He kind of makes me think of Ian Somerhalder (an American actor) and a young Bryan Ferry. Alexander’s actually a student at the university, which makes me wonder how I’ve not come across him before. Though it’s not entirely surprising considering how many students there are and we’re probably part of different faculties.
The message he wrote was very nice.
I’m Alexander. I was browsing through the profiles here and came across yours.
You seem like a very interesting person. I hope you really are as pretty as your profile picture. I have to wonder why such a seemingly nice girl is looking for romance online.
Please have a look at my profile, and if you’re interested feel free to message me.
Hope I pass your high expectations.
I like that he wasn’t overly affectionate in his message. Some of the young men, and even older men, that message me come out as beings too familiar for a first message. Though I’m not sure I would continue messaging them if they suddenly started being overly affectionate.
I also like that he didn’t text talk. Not that I have anything against it, but I always think that it should be saved for when you’re actually texting someone on your mobile. I know you would probably agree with me on that.
And I know that you would also be happy that I’m trying to meet new people because you worry that I spend most of my time alone, but would tell me to be careful.
Well, you can rest assured I am being careful. I read in a magazine article on online dating somewhere that it’s more ideal to wait for at least three weeks before giving someone your e-mail address, and another week or so before giving your phone number, then another week or more before we agree to meet. Obviously, the last part will be arranged at a time when our schedules permit.
Anyway, not much else has been happening this week, so I think I’ll just stop there. I’ll write again soon.