Girl Handbook

Girl Handbook is a guide to the mind of the average Teenage girl, pre-teen, and even adult women. And the crazy hormones girls have. Girl handbook expresses the troubles of the average girl , Girl codes, and the things that normal teenagers just dont want to talk about! This is a book full of how to fit in, the troubles of moving, and how to go from the outsider to the leader. The ups & downs of mother nature. And how life just isnt fair sometimes.

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24. Everyone has that one problem...

Every girl, at least one time in her life, has had: stage fright, under confidence or has been publicly humiliated. One thing may lead to another. Many people have been bullied, or have friends who put them down without meaning to; certain things can hurt people really badly. Everyone has something wrong with themselves. Something wrong with their life. Something which they believe can never be solved. If you don't know what I'm talking about, maybe that's it, maybe you can't even admit to yourself that I'm speaking the truth. About everyone. 

Don't believe that there is no way to solve your problem, your slight imperfection, your worry, your trouble. For whatever that is, there is a to make it better! (You can trust me, I know! ;))

'Never judge a person until walking a mile in their shoes'

That is one of the most important things you must do. Don't pretend you know anything about someone. Not even your best friend, you never know what they might have been through! ;)

Bullies take their anger out on you, they make you feel small just to make themselves feel big. This is unacceptable. If they are hurting you then they need to be stopped. This can often be their way of solving whatever is wrong in their lives. This is wrong. Whether you need to tell an adult you can trust, or just your friend. Only you can decide how to make this change in your life. Only you know what is happening between you and the bully. If you make the wrong choice and do the wrong thing, you could end up hurting the bully and hurting yourself even more. (Yet again you can trust me, I had to make this choice like many others!) This isn't the way to solve your problems either! :-) :-) 

If you are being hurt by a close friend or family, they were more likely to listen to you. You can tell them face to face how what they are doing makes you feel. (That is, if you feel you are able ;)) for they may not even realise the effect what they are doing has in you! If they really are your friend, they will listen and try to stop doing this. If not, if they react badly and then later try and make it seem like you are doing something wrong to them, you will have to find other ways to stop them, they aren't your friend. Not for the moment anyway.

'Friends are there to support and help you, they will always be there when you need them most' I know that may sound really cheesy but hey?! We all need support if we want to be successful! You may want to but you can't do it alone!

Under confidence is really hard to overcome. Pretty much all of these problems lead to under confidence. For weeks maybe years after your problem is solved, you will most likely suffer from under confidence. This is the real problem. This can often be worse than the actual cause. Most people were harsher on themselves, they see more problems on themselves than other people will ever see in them. It becomes a matter of who do you believe. If you are under confident, you have believed only yourself and those trying to hurt you. If you want to help yourself, you must listen to others with the right opinion, the reality!

Lots of people will think that they are strong enough to brush off nasty comments people make about them. But if this happens timed after time then it will get to you. If it doesn't, I think that you should be giving advice instead of me! :)

My advice to overcoming under confidence is to try and break out from yourself. You mat not even  be confident enough to tell someone. If this is the case keep some form of diary for a while until you believe that you can do it. After you have told someone about your situation you will have someone to help you. Someone to tell you, you are amazing once in a while! Someone to do the job that should have been done all this time. 

Smile! :) be happy with yourself! You are brilliant!

 

~Elrenia :-)  xoxo that was my winning article for the competition :-)  enjoy xo

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