I'm a mess, help recovery guide

his is a guide which were writing to explain the background of things in life and advice on how to deal with that.

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8. Dealing with exs.

More often that not we find we cannot get rid of our ex. No matter how much you would like to get rid of them, you simply cannot. This could be because you go to the same school and there is no avoiding seeing them unless you drop out. It could also be that you both have almost the same friends and there is no dropping a friend, just because it is over. That would be sick. You will have to learn to deal with your ex because they're is there to stay, and unless something as big as death happens to them, you are going to meet with them more often than not. However, do not get any ideas about killing your ex, that's for fantasies only.


If you ended it with your ex and it's just a little bit awkward. 

If this is the case, you're better off leaving it a week before talking to them.  If they're hurting the last thing they want is you reminding them of the break up. 

If you're not over him

As hard as it may be, you must not tell them how you feel, text or call them loads and disappear. If you're being clingy after a break up, you'll just wind them up and they'll resent you more and more. 


The way I found most effective, was to act as if you don't care. I didn't call, text or message them, acted like I didn't care e.g. flirted with their friends and when I was ready to, I started dating other people, openly telling their closest friends about that too. It sounds evil, I know, but it made me feel better that they knew I 'had easily moved on' other than 'I still missed them' and believe it or not, they started to care and miss me. In the end, I never was interested in my ex because after all that messing around with their head, I met someone else that I really liked.


-The Escapist. 

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