I'm in love with my boss, I've been working as his Secretary for two years. I know I need to move on now but I don't want to end our relationship. No one else in the office knows and we never go on dates outside the office. Neither of us have said the L word yet because I'm afraid he doesn't want to commit. What should I do? My job applicant at a larger firm as an entry adviser was accepted, and now I feel as though I have to chose between my career and my heart.
Please reply, Clueless.
The first thing that stood out to me was the name, Anny? Did this mean I now had a secret persona. I shook my head, disbelieving. this woman was having to make a life changing decision and she was asking me? I looked out of the widow, hopelessly. Our team was on the third floor and if I ignored the car park that was just out of my line of sight I was able to focus on the sky. Believe me it helped. Whenever I felt claustrophobic, or confused (Which was often,) I looked out of the window- no matter how incredibly cliched it is. But may I remind you, this is Yorkshire, so instead of blue sky's and puffy clouds... It was tipping it down. But when you've lived here as long as I have- it grows on you.
May I just congratulate you for keeping up an office relationship for so long! Bravo. And take. the. job. If you love him then your relationship won't work unless he loves you back. You have to tell him (preferably before sex: He'll be more likely to say Yes and it will be harder to back out of it!). If he admits your feelings are mutual, then start seeing each other outside of work. Date nights and what-not. If he says no- who cares?! Your getting another job! And if you've been dating someone for two years without saying the L-word. Girl. It's time to get your act together and start playing in the field! And who knows? Your boss might be a hunk!
Fingers crossed, Anny.
I nibbled my lip feeling unsure. What I wrote sounded nothing like me. It sounded sassy, confident and well...
"Amazing- I love it," Cassia wrapped her arms around me squealing. "Your a natural!" I practically started purring "It's actually kinda fun," I said, Damn it, I didn't mean to say that out-loud.
"Kinda- what?" Cassia giggeled. I squirmed.
"Kinda nothing." I said hurridly.
"FUN. You said it was fun." Cassia laughed, amused at my regret.
"Shut up. I have six more too go because of you. Your distracting me," I turned away from her snottily.
"Of course you highness," She laughed, making her way round to check the final design pages of the celebrity section.
One down. Six to go. I gave myself a silent smile. She thought it was good... And I was actually having fun.