Judgmental Hypocrites

by , Saturday May 6, 2017

An angry and passionate rant on stereotypes and validity


*Ramble Alert*

Also, *Censored Curse Words Alert*


I’m angry and fed up right now.

First of all, I’m not a “popular” person, and neither are any of my friends (this will become relevant).

Sometimes, after a particularly annoying and exasperating encounter with a “popular” person, my friends will start talking about how that person is stupid. I can see where they’re coming from. When a guy is purposefully being difficult to a chill teacher just because things aren’t going his way, I get a little aggravated too. I don't agree with s**t-talking people, but I at least understand why.

Recently, however, I’ve started seeing things differently. That same guy, who is in my Law 1/Philosophy class, shared about his life. Nothing as deep as the Mariana Trench, but he opened up about a few details in his life. He doesn’t have great grades, and apparently whenever his parents confront him about how his grades aren’t good enough, they take away his phone or something, when that doesn’t actually help him get better grades.

Now, the validity of his view on the matter can be argued either way, but I see where he’s coming from. His parents aren’t necessarily taking active steps to help him, they’re just punishing him as an incentive. Now maybe they did eliminate a distraction, or maybe this kid doesn’t actually care about his grades, but, regardless, he shared a possibly semi-private detail about his life. This made me realize something.  “Popular” people don’t necessarily have perfect lives. “Popular” people don’t necessarily have their s**t together. And yeah, maybe that’s obvious. But what people might not think about is all the details that are left unspoken. A “popular” kid can still struggle with their home life or their mental health. A “popular” kid can have bad days too. While the nerds, geeks, emos, punks, and other minorities that are generally seen as the victims get some slack, the popular kids don’t. There are horrible stereotypes ingrained into our society (and yes, maybe they stem from truth but they themselves are not inherently truthful). The “unpopular” kids are the ones who have to fend off the bullies and who have to accept themselves and come to all these fabulous realizations about their self-worth. The “popular” kids are self-absorbed and shallow and malicious towards “unpopulars”.

I am f***ing SICK of it. This is unadultered hypocrisy. If a nerd/geek/drama kid/band kid/emo/punk/goth/etc is upset/rude/uninviting, then everyone is told to consider that they could be going through a rouhg time. That it’s okay, because they’re not a popular person. If a jock/cheerleader/preppy kid/etc is upset/rude/uninviting, they are called “shallow” and “mean” - people will even say that they hate them.

No one ever thinks that maybe the popular kids aren’t bullies, maybe they have to suffer through the same s**t as the rest of us. They still have to worry about grades, puberty, friend problems, relationship problems, family deaths, traumatizing experiences (ex: car crashes), self-esteem issues, emotional damage, psychological damage, whatever the hell they’re going to do after high school, making a living, setting themselves up for a good life - they’re still students. They’re still only our age. “Us” and “them” are not as different as everyone seems to think.

So I have a hard time when people act like it’s okay to scoff at “popular” kids and their problems while it’s completely unjust the other way around. The next time I start to think that the popular girl’s relationship problems are petty, the next time I think that the popular guy is just being an idiot or an a**hole, I’m going to think twice. Because they may be going through hell, and I would never know.

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