LGBTQ+ People and How to Write Them|PART TWO: Bisexual

PART TWO: Bisexual

In an attempt to increase the number of LGBTQ+ characters in media, I started an educational blog on how to write these characters properly. Part one was about gay and lesbian, now part two is about bisexual. Get comfy, brew yourself a cup of tea, and get ready to take some notes, because you're about to learn a thing or two.

Now, once again for those of you who miised it last time, I'll quickly summerise why I'm writing these blogs, feel free to skip to the next paragraph if you've already seen this bit. LGBTQ+ reperesantation is very important because many LGBTQ+ people are growing up never seeing themselves in any movies, shows, books, or plays, and this can leave them feeling like they're not real or important. No one deserves this. LGBTQ+ is an acronym, standing for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer and questioning with the + standing for every other gender, romantic atraction, and sexuality that didn't fit in the acronym. Yes, I am able to write this blog, because I'm a part of the LGBTQ+ comunity, as well as my schools equity club. I have also been to an LGBTQ+ confrence and done quite a bit of in-depth research.

I suppose a few of you are wondering what the word bisexual even means. Bisexual is defined as a person who can be sexually and/or romantically attracted to two or more sexes or gender identities (sex is the body parts you have, gender identy is the pronouns you use, such as she/her and he/him). For example some one who is attracted to both men and women, or men and agendered (when you don't identify with a gender) people, etc.,.

As you can probably imagine there is fair amount of stereotypes surrounding bisexuality. The one I've heard most often is that bisexual people are more likely to cheat on thier partners than straight or gay people. This is total baloney. Just because they theoretically like more people, doesn't make them more likey to cheat. There is no co-relation between sexuality and morals, and I have heard of both loyal and unloyal bisexuals. Another similar stereotype I've heard is that bisexual people are only identifing as such because they want to have sex constantly (it's usually worded more rudely, but you get my point). This is also made up, people aren't bisexual for sex, they're bisexual because that's who they are and who they like. Possibly the most hurtful and frequent stereotype I've heard is "Your not really bisexual because you haven't dated more than one sex" or "You don't like at least on person from both sexes in a romantic and/or sexual way? Well then you're not bisexual". Once again this is completely stupid. If a straight person hasn't ever dated the oposite sex are they suddenly not straight? If a straight person doesn't like any members of the oposite sex in a romantic and/or sexual way does that mean they're not straight? No and no. If it's not applicable to straight people, then why should it be for bisexual people? Here's your answer; it shouldn't.

Bisexual people face more problems in day-to-day life than gay and lesbian people. This is because while most people agree that gay and lesbian people exist (weither or not they approve), many people believe that bisexual people aren't real and only identify with that term as a cry for attention.This means that not only do they face the threat of being shunned from friends and family and being kicked out of thier homes, they also have people tellig them that what they are doesn't exist. The world of fiction is also massively unhelpful due to the lack of bisexual characters and reperesentation. This can lead many bisexual people to wake up and go about their days wondering if they really are what they think they are. I still do this sometimes and I have a very supportive group of family and friends who have never once questioned or tried to hurt me for being what I am. I hope that puts this into perspective for you because this is a major issue that severly affects the mental health of bisexual people, and it can only be fixed when more and more people begin to accept and support these people.

While we're still on this topic, I'd like to teach you all a little something about bi-eraser. Sounds horrible, doesn't it? That's because it is. Bi-eraser is basically the belief that bisexuality isn't real, and the label should not be validated in anyway, meaning no bisexual characters in movies, tv, or literature, and bisexual people are a group of attention seeking liars. Can you picture why this might be harmful to any group of people, let alone one who only began to get rights a few years ago (gay marrige was legalized about 15 years ago where I live, but it's different in other places)? If you can't, let me put it this way. You wake up everyday knowing you can't date people you really care about, you wake up knowing you can't let your friends or family know how you feel. You have to keep it hidden because you know they won't believe you, the might sign you up for therapy, they might not allow you to express yourself, they might even kick you out of the house. Do you understand now?

When writing a bisexual character, don't think of them as bisexual, but as human. Try to incorperate the feelings and stereotypes I've perviously mentioned into your characters day-to-day life. Put yourself in their shoes, try to imagine how you would feel if your parents kicked you out for telling them who you loved (or whatever the senerio may be). Look up statistics, mental health issues and rates of suicide are higher in the LGBTQ+ community than almost any other.

As for the language commonly used in the community, it's pretty much the same as the slang I mentioned in my previous blog. I'll put a link here for those of you who want to check that out: http://www.movellas.com/blog/show/201701070053368454/lgbtq-people-and-how-to-write-them-part-1-gay-lesbian

Once again, here's your "Do's" and "Don'ts".

Do:

  • Potray your characters as human (or whatever species they maybe)
  • Incorperate how their sexuality affects their desisions and day-to-day life
  • Show how stereotypes and negetive perseptions affect their mental health and emotions
  • Include LGBTQ+ slang in their speach (if applicable to the character's situation)
  • Consider stereotypes, as well as stitistics when creating your character
  • Do research on things you are unsure of (I would be happy to help if you are unsure as to how to go about doing this)

Don't:

  • Potray your character as something different that what their species is (unless you have solid reasoning for doing so)
  • Work completely in stereotypes
  • Kill them off for no logical reason (especially when you would have kept a straight character in the same senario alive)
  • Completely aviod the slag used by the LGBTQ+ community without reason (other than lack of knowledge on your part)
  • Make their liife out to be more perfect or romantizied than any other normal human beings
  • Make them out as evil sinners who must repent (unless its relevant to the story)
  • Have them uneffected by bi-eraser or any other negative subject surrounding bisexuality. This is unrealistic even if they have a great accepting support network.

I hope you guys enjoyed this one, and once again if you have any questions or need help with your own research just let me know and I'd be more than happy to help! I hope you learned a thing or two, and remember this is only one part of a series so look out for future posts. Have a nice day! 

~NightshadeCreepypasa

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