Life as a Teen Mom

by , Tuesday January 3, 2017

Just a little peak into the busy life of a teen mom...

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I hate the stigma that goes along with being a teen mom. Already you're labeled as a "slut" or a "whore" just because protection failed while you're doing the exact same thing most of the people your age are already doing. There's also the phrase "people make mistakes" that is commonly used to describe teen mothers. Babies aren't mistakes. Ever. They're a blessing that may not always come at the right time, but don't think of them as any less.


I can honestly tell you that everything that's happened to me in the last year hasn't been planned, but I fully welcomed with open arms. I never thought that this would be my life, but now that it is, I wouldn't change it for anything. My goal with this story? Just to inform all of you. Most of the people on this website (but not all, I don't mean to stereotype or discriminate) are teenage girls. Your teenage years are by far the most influential times in your life. You see things that are glorified in songs or on TV (sex being the biggest) and they talk about it in such a nonchalant way that it makes you have a casual attitude towards it. Sex shouldn't be a blase thing, and I hate that so many teenage girls treat it as such.


When I was fifteen, I lost my virginity to my current boyfriend Matthew in the woods in a local park. Not exactly rose petals on a bed, right? But at the time, I didn't care. I just wanted to get it over with. I looked at my virginity like it was some sort of baggage that was weighing me down and I needed to get rid of. That one time spiraled into so many more, and before I knew it, every time Matthew and I hung out it ended up with me on my back in the backseat of his old Corolla. Don't get me wrong, the sex was great. That's why I kept doing it. It wasn't that it just felt good, I loved the connection it made me feel with him. But in retrospect, at fifteen, I probably should've found better ways to feel that connection with him but I was (and still am) young and dumb.


Things continued like that until I found myself sitting in the bathroom with a positive pregnancy test in my hands. That was by far the scaredest I've ever been in my life. But hey, I was going to be a mom. I had to grow up. So instead of parties and quickies in the back of Matthew's car, we began saving up. We worked all that we could and by the time our babygirl was born, we had her nursery set up with all of the stuff we were able to buy her.


I know, teenagers will be teenagers. But when are teenagers going to start being safer? I see things all the time about girls as young as 14 WANTING to be pregnant. That blows my mind. Of course being a mom is the best part of my life and I do believe that you've never experienced love until you have a baby of your own, but you can always move forward in life. There will always be time to have a baby, but once you do it, you can't take it back. This is something you've got with you for the rest of your life.


Do I regret anything? Not one little bit. But do I wish I'd waited so that I could give my daughter a better life? Definitely. It isn't just MY life my poor decisions affected. They also affect my daughter. Nobody should bring a baby into this world if they are uncapable of taking care of it. Babies are a lot of work. More than anyone who's never had kids could imagine. I've gone two days on seven hours of sleep before. i couldn't have done that before Savannah came along.


My point? Consider your choices and think of the consequences before they happen. Be smart. If you're going to be sexually active, double up forms of contraception (except condoms. That makes them more likely to break). Get on birth control and use condoms. Have him pull out just for another measure of security. Remember how important condoms are. Not only could you end up with unwanted pregnancy, there are also a lot of bad STI's out there. Keep yourselves safe and let my choices be a lesson to you all.

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